While just browsing through Twitter, I saw this tweet that was retweeted by a friend.
Props to the guy who shared this. When I first read it, I myself, was humbled by the thought of a wounded soldier opening a door for a lady like he probably has done in many days before he was injured serving our country. My second emotion was disgust and disappointment for the young men who choose to not perform such simple acts for women on a daily basis. And they have both legs.
I see people open doors for each other all the time here in the South, but I’m thinking more beyond that now. If you are not a single young woman, then you probably won’t understand my concerns. And if you are a male, don’t assume that I am bunching you specifically in this lot. Generally, though, young men do not know how to properly court or treat a woman. If I had to guess, I would say that I have been asked out more though text messaging than I have in person or over the phone. Why is this ok? One gentlemen suggested that us ladies are to blame for this because we enable it by engaging in a texting conversation in the first place. I somewhat agree but we now rarely use our cell phones for calling people so therefore, texting is now the primary choice of communication between most. With that being said, do you still think it would be too difficult to actually dial up a lady and ask her to a proper dinner date?
Out of the dates I have gone on in the last year, most have asked me to meet them somewhere, or picked me up in front of my building and waited in the car on the street. I swear to you only ONE actually parked and got out of his car and waited patiently for me by the front door for 5 minutes. He said each time the door opened to my very busy building, he turned around thinking it was me. Kudos to him. I still have a crush on him to this day… (Turns out he is a southern boy from GA, who was raised in a very traditional home. Makes sense now.)
I do understand that we as a new generation have more independence, technology and opportunities. Hell, I’ve asked guys out myself knowing that is appropriate these days, but I don’t think men should lose sight of how to truly woo a woman. I cannot speak for other women, but I can tell you in my experience, the romantic and thoughtful gestures that I appreciate that seem to have been forgotten.
-Opening car doors
-Walking a girl home even if it’s out of the way
-Pushing in her chair at a very nice dinner
-Flowers (I used to say I hated flowers, and I’ve heard other women say the same, but now I would melt if someone showed up with a surprise bouquet)
-Planning an entire date (Surprises work even better, as long as it is not creepy.)
-Showing a true interest in her and making her feel special
In a world where men and women are such good friends, I can understand how dating has become much more relaxed and casual but I hope that chivalry isn’t dying completely. With seeing how lazy the students that are graduating college now are, it makes me frightened for the next generation. Instead of in person, maybe they will just meet each other on Match.com, Twitter and Facebook. Eek.
My point is: No matter what your situation, it does not hurt to treat a female right and make her feel special. Maybe we could all learn from someone so selfless as a soldier with no legs who still wants to open a door for a lady. God bless him.
What are your thoughts?
Do you agree or disagre? Do you think the old school way of dating has been changed forever? Please comment below!